Author: lifeafterdoorkicking

  • Progress towards a goal I’m terrified of reaching.

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    What’s your #1 priority tomorrow? Lately, I’ve been trying to get better about actually sharing my work instead of holding onto it until it’s “perfect.” I’ve realized that perfectionism can be a form of self-sabotage — if I never let my thoughts and ideas out into the world, they stay trapped in my head, and…

  • When Rhetoric Turns to Bloodshed

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    Today’s shooting at the ICE facility in Dallas hit me hard. A guy opened fire from a rooftop, killed one detainee, and left two others critically wounded before turning the gun on himself. They found a bullet etched with “ANTI-ICE,” signaling the whole thing was political. This isn’t some isolated stunt. Earlier this year, an…

  • Why Serial Killers Vanished—and What Replaced Them

    In the late 20th century, Americans lived under the quiet dread of serial killers. Names like Ted Bundy, John Wayne Gacy, and Jeffrey Dahmer became embedded in the cultural psyche. They haunted a society where evil seemed to lurk in shadows—killing methodically, compulsively, and often undetected for years. But over the past two decades, a…

  • “The More We Value Things Outside of Our Control the Less Control We Have.”

    What’s the best piece of advice you’ve ever received? The Best Advice I’ve Ever Received The best piece of advice I’ve ever received isn’t flashy or complicated—it’s the core tenet of Stoicism: focus your energy on the things you can actually affect. It sounds simple, almost obvious. Yet in practice, it’s anything but. We spend…

  • Every Dollar Is a Vote: The Quiet Power of the Consumer

    Voting With Your Wallet: How Americans Elect Corporations Every Day In America—and to varying degrees around the world—democracy doesn’t stop at the ballot box. It continues every time we open our wallets. Every dollar spent is a signal. It’s a vote. Not for a political party or a candidate, but for the world we want…

  • When Words Get Violence, Don’t Be Surprised if Violence Begets Violence

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    “A man was murdered over his ideas. If that doesn’t appall you, we may be too far apart politically to ever reconcile.” I normally post weekly, but the reactions online to the Charlie Kirk shooting demanded more than silence. In my last piece, I addressed those celebrating his death. Today, I want to focus on…

  • Violence Is Violence—No Matter the Idea

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    I’ve seen what real violence looks like. I’ve walked through the streets of Baghdad after Saddam fell, where hatred exploded around every corner. Bodies in alleys. Trunks filled with the dead. Streets littered with people murdered for nothing more than who they were, what they believed, what sect they were born into. Sunni. Shia. Kurd.…

  • Tonight I am wondering about the direction of the country I grew up in and fought for.

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    What are you doing this evening? The Dangers of Political Violence and the Urgency of Cooler Heads The assassination of Charlie Kirk at Utah Valley University is a chilling reminder of how fragile our civic fabric has become. Political murder is a line no society can cross without unraveling. Today’s tragedy has drawn universal condemnation…

  • When A Mask Becomes A Weapon

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    Thin Line Between Influence and Manipulation: Listening, Psychology, and Intent I’ve been diving into psychology books like The Laws of Human Nature by Robert Greene and How to Win Friends and Influence People by Dale Carnegie. What they reveal about human behavior is powerful—and honestly, a little unsettling. These books agree on something deceptively simple:…

  • Not 27 anymore.

    I turn 40 this morning, and honestly—it feels surreal. For so long, I’ve been joking that I was 27. I said it so often I’d sometimes forget my real age. But here I am, four decades in, and it feels different. Not in a bad way—just in a way that makes me stop and really…